We often hear that a chain is no stronger than its weakest link. Well in the case of sisterhood, the bond is no stronger than the weaker sister. Now that may seem very harsh but it is also very real. Many of us have had what we considered to be strong bonds created with other sisters, destroyed by the littlest of things. We may have asked ourselves all types of questions in the event that this has happened to us. So i wanted to touch on this topic. It is always easier to walk through life with rose colored glasses, but when reality hits it can be more painful due to that particular view. As sisters, what we bring to the bond be it good or bad either strengthens the bond or tears it down. Much like a relationship with a man, we must either deal with the pain of our past and move forward or continue to allow our past to effect our present day situations. Many of us lie to ourselves about the extent of the damage that exists within us to do poor relationships with other girls/women from grade school through high school. Those interactions shape or in some cases dictate how we experience college and then work life in relation to other women. Due to the nature of our own ego's we simply want to push these issues on the back burner as if they can not and will not still burn us. When we choose to open up to a man, we accept that there is a vulnerability that goes along with that. We are willing to work through all types of MESS to deal with that man. Yet, with our sisters we place unrealistic standards on the nature of that union. We no longer tolerate differences and we begin to view our sisters as being dispensable. We have to shift this type of mindset. We are destroying our chances of creating strong communities of women who support, nurture, guide and love each other.
We may not:
- Always get along
- Always disagree peacefully
- Always be there when the other person wants us to be
- Always live up to each others expectations
- Always know what to say
- Always know when to say something
- Always do the right thing
- Always say the right thing
HOWEVER
We need to always:
- Respect each other
- Be understanding of one another
- Love each other
- Be patient with each other
- Leave room for growth as individuals
- Accept your differences
- Promote honest and open communication
- Accept what we view as flaws in our sisters
Sisterhood is not and will not always be easy, but I will say that it is definitely worth the investment. We simply need to remember to be strong and resolute in who we are and be willing to learn and grow. I love you all as I love myself and want for you what I want for myself. So lets get back to promoting communities of women who support one another and promote the continuation of the practice as well.
Peace
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