The Thinking Mother

I know it has been a minute and I am so glad to be back on the world wide web family. So since we last spoke I have had some, lets just say less than thrilling experiences in the wonderful world of what I like to call "Teen Land." My recent experiences put the HOOD in parenthood. It's like a battlefield with my 13 year old son at this moment in time. He has hooked up with the wrong group of kids at school, started talking back to adults, bullying kids in class, and to boot thinks he's a man because sperm comes out of his little peckerwood.   Now, I must admit that I don’t have the answer to out of control teens and if I did, then heck I would have sold it and been a billionaire. I am however saying that sharing is caring. I have accepted the fact that you can give or teach your children all the lessons or tools in the world but if they actively choose to not utilize them, then there's nothing that you can do. Now that doesn’t mean simply give up on them. It does however mean you can't control the will of others and this includes our children. When talking goes in one ear and out the other, when heart to hearts go south, when ass whoopings get you no where but tired, when others attempts fail miserably and when sick and tired only gets you tired of being sick and tired……. then what happens?

What I am finding happens, is that we continue to seek to break all these cycles that were either set in motion before our children came into existence along with other cycles that were created through our own ignorance. The funny thing about all of this is that there are so many different cycles that contribute to the complexities of raising our children, that it's not even funny. I have tried so many things with my son from switching parenting methods, to enlisting help of "professionals", to friends and some family members helping out. The interesting part of all of this is that when you involve so many people and they all end up repeating what you have already said, lets just say you feel less crazy. Nonetheless no matter how many people repeat what I say or agree with me it doesn’t change the behaviors exhibited  by my son. And then what happened or happens??? Well family as for myself I have come to understand that I have a child that is determined to make his own way. Now I may not like his methods nor respect his actions, but I understand the need to do it on your own. I have often times forgot was it was like for me as a  child. The need to find out  everything for myself, the cross between wanting to be cool and pleasing my teachers or parents, not fitting into different clicks, feeling conflicted between wanting to kind of be a "good girl" verses being like some other members of my family. It was  a very trying and confusing time for me. I had so many influences that were both positive and negative.  My parents at the time had tried everything they thought of to reach me and all the while I was thinking all the things but the right ones. In the end they just let go and left me to do just was I was determined to do, which was to find my own way. That way my friends had so many bumps along the path that it wasn’t even funny. Now my son is appearing to come to the same crossroads himself with me. I have given all the knowledge that I can as to provide direction and the tools to reach a proper understanding on the consequences of his choices. Now I can empathize with a young man or any mans need to make his own way so at this point I am leaving him to his own justice. By justice I mean to say that whether  the he gets a reward or is penalized for his actions he is the one who has to go through it without my aide. This may seem harsh to some and not to others. At this point my stance is if you keep jumping off a boat into the ocean and can't swim and I constantly throw over a float then you'll keep jumping because my actions are predictable and you feel safe. Now if I take the same scenario and tell that child where the life jacket is, how to put it on, and give all the instructions on how to use it and then leave. He has to think about his actions with a little more care because he no longer sees me on the deck of the boat. This does not imply a lack of love but an understanding that sometimes degrees of space can accomplish some amazing things. Since however this is reality and everything doesn't always play out in the way  that we anticipate it, I'll keep you posted family. Peace and Love

Beautiful SciAsia Aset Earth

We are back!

It has been a while but we are back!

Stop!

Most of us know exactly what it is that creates the pain, confusion, stagnation, and disruption in our lives. Whether it is a habit, behavior, relationship or fear, we know. Unfortunately, we seem powerless to stop whatever it is. Sometimes we believe we don't have the discipline or willpower to stop. The behavior becomes so habitual we do it without thinking. Other times we know exactly what it is and what we do, but we simply keep doing it anyway. We are the only ones responsible for what goes on in our lives. We can make excuses and blame others, but we are responsible to and for ourselves. When we find something or someone creating in our lives that which we do not want, we must muster the courage ans strength to stop it!

Today I use my power to stop what is no longer good to me!

~Iyanla Vanzant

Peace ~ Queen Kalila Earth

Cornbread

Corn Bread

Ingredients :       

• 1 cup Medium Grind Cornmeal  
• 1 cup Flour  
• 1/2 tsp Sea Salt  
• 4 tsp Baking Powder  
• 1 cup of Sugar  (I use sugar in the raw)
• 1 Egg  ( I use ener-g egg replacer)
• 1 cup Milk (I use soy)
• 1/4 cup Butter or Margarine, softened ( I use vegan margarine)

Directions:

Whisk together the dry ingredients in a bowl.  Add the egg, milk and butter.  Beat until smooth, about 1 minute.  Be careful not to overbeat.

Bake in a greased 8-inch square pan for 20-25 minutes at 425°F.  Serve warm with butter and a beaming smile.

A Simple Lesson Learned

Peace Family,

Please pardon my hold up of the progression of this blog. I have had to take a few steps back to better observe my position and determine the best direction for me at this time. My personal life over the last couple of months has made me ponder virtually every aspect of my 31 years of living. The one thing that stayed in the forefront of my mind was the conditions in which I have created for myself and my children over the years. I have three beautiful children and all of them have some sort of issue, be it overly emotional, entirely too clingy, or completely disconnected. The only one sure thing of it all is that, it is my actions that have bought about their reactions. As parents or just people in general we like to at times blame everything and anything on others. This gives us this really delusional idea that we didn’t screw up so bad because someone else had their hand in the pot. Then we proceed with this fantastic idea that we now feel better due to this fact. I think we often like to hear a bunch of pleasantries about parenting and how things will turn out if we just have patience. We often hear people say, just hold on, get a message or take a break and meditate. The questions becomes what happens when those seemingly minute things do not work in bringing you any type of comfort when parenting suddenly stops being easy and comfortable. Now as we proceed, know one thing.... I am not saying that I have all  the answers or even the correct one. You know how many places I have looked for the answers, how many people I have asked for this answer. In the end only to find that when you stop, take a step back, and honestly evaluate the situation, the answers you find may be the best solutions to your problems. When you think about it and ask yourself who knows you or your children better than you do. It makes you wonder why we depend on a greater deal of information from others verses listening to our spirit as it guides us. As parents we are connected to our children and as they are to us in a way that compares to nothing else. As woman we carry these beautiful beings within our being. We feel them move and grow. They listen to our voices and at a point go to sleep and wake up to the sound of our heartbeats. Do we really understand that connection? Melanin responds to rhythm and our babies wake and sleep to our beating hearts. It’s funny to me now, how much I have listened to others only to one day just get it. Parenting is in no way easy and at times it may be down right unbearable. I have been a single parent for so many years and at times feel so broken, worn, and torn. I have needed a break from the children so badly that at times I would break down into tears. Now realizing I needed a break from a mode of thinking that kept me from really tackling some of the things that really needed to be addressed with my children as a family. I have learned that loving and accepting them is all they really need from me. I say this because I love my children but I had to really ask myself is this what they receive from me through their perception, love. Keeping in mind that your thoughts alter your perception and your perception alters your reality. We will always go through things as parents with our children however if at the end of the day we all know that we have love and a genuine acceptance of each other then we will be alright in the end. Love by definition varies according to the person, however the best definition that I have ever heard is:

Love- is the highest for of understanding between people with a bond so strong that it cannot be broken.

Needless to say that my focus now for my family as simple as it may sound is to focus more on simply loving and accepting each other so that we will have created a bond that is so strong that it cannot be broken. For many this seems a given, but for most, we are products of families that are dysfunctional on many levels and are simply determined to break the cycle.

Reaching Out

Sisterhood is something that should not be taken lightly. The opportunity to love, care for, support, laugh with, and cry with your sister is a beautiful connection. It takes time, energy, love, understanding, acceptance and selflessness! Take the time to reach out to the women that have been special in your life. I remember the days when my mother and her girfriends would get together to play spades and would laugh and talk into the wee hours of the morning. Those women were not only important in my mothers life but were very instrumental in my growth and development. Teaching me thru their love of my mother what sisterhood was all about.

We have lost that sense of community. We no longet take the time to call, write a letter, send a card or drop by to visit. Just a simnpe card to day, "Hey girl, just checking to see how you were doing." goes a long way! We are so wrapped up in our everyday that we forget to nurture the ties that bond us together as sisters.

Take the time today to reach out to a sister you have talked to in a while, that sister that you have been meaning to call but havent gotten around to, make a list of birthday reminders in your BlackBerry and instead of sending a Happy Birthday text send out a birthday card.

Lets begin to nurture our bonds of sisterhood!

Peace
Queen Kalila Earth

Chocolate Vegan Pudding

Ingredients:

1 package of silken tofu (I like vanilla)
3/8 cup of Cocoa Power
4 tablespoons of Soy Milk

Instructions:

Place all of the ingredients into a blender cover and puree until smooth. Then place the mixture in a container and refrigerate an hour, then serve.


VARIATIONS: You DO NOT have to adjust the recipe if you want to add any one variation

You can add a Banana, for chocolate banana pudding
You can add 5 Strawberries, for chocolate strawberry pudding
You can add 1/2 cup of Blueberries, for chocolate blueberry pudding

Allow yourself to receive sisterly love!I

This is something I read in Iyanla Vanzant's book Acts of Faith that has stuck with me over the years. I often find it hard to let people care for me as I am used to be the care giver. I had to realize sisterhood is a two way street and it is okay to allow yourself to be cared for. It doesn't make us less of a strong woman just allows us a break to be able to continue to be strong!!!

Be sure that you surround yourself with people who are willing to be there for you as you are for them. Nothing worse than trying to reach out to that sister that you have helped out and been there for 100x over and they never seem to be able to be there when you reach out and need that ear to listen or shoulder to cry on!

Every woman is every other woman trying to figure out who she is. ~ Nana Korantemaa

Women of color (Original Women) have been led to believe that they must be everything to everyone. As a result, we do not know how to ask for support when we need or want it. We become angry with other when they are not there for us, but we must realize people can not, will not and do not know how to help if we do not know how to ask. Take sixty seconds for yourself and ask yourself what you need. If it is assistance with a project, a shoulder to cry on, a special something you need or want for yourself, let other people support you. We make judgements about what other people can or will do and we move on our assumptions. We never really know what a person is willing to do or capable of doing until we ask. Nothing is too big or too small to ask for if we need it. When we don't ask for what we need, the need keeps getting bigger.

Affirmation~If I need support today I will ask for it!

Peace and Blessing

Queen Kalila Earth

Are You Fantastic Only In Your Own Mind

This month we will look into the word Fantastic.


Fantastic- In the late 14th century it meant existing only in imagination. It derives from old french word fantastique, the late latin word phantasticus meaning imaginary, from the greek word phantastikos meaning able to imagine, and from phantazein meaning to make visible.

So the next time we tell our children that they are doing a fantastic job we really need to rethink what we are actually telling them. When using this term we are essentially highlighting a specific thing, act, or perhaps action. This very act is intended to positively reinforce something that is tangible, so then why do we use a word that in its very nature, means imaginary. Well family that's the purpose of the Jargon section of this blog because when we know better we do better.

Heart attack, stroke, and other cardiovascular disease are devastating for anyone. The risk are growing for women and even more alarming are great for Original Women. Factors that increase the risk are high blood pressure, diabetes, and obesity. Studies also show that Original women are not care for heart disease because they do not get the same test and therefore the same treatments. The important part is to be educated on heart disease so you can take the steps to preventing and getting the proper treatments.

There are some risk factors that are not under your control. Those risk factors are:

1. Age - as women get older the risk of heart disease and stroke rise
2. Gender - Each year approximately 55,000 more women than men have strokes and about 60% of total stroke deaths occur in women
3. Family History - if heat disease and stroke are common in your family that increases the risk for you

Despite these risk factors you can take action and lower your risk by 80% by following these basic guidelines:

1. No smoking and if you do smoke quit NOW! Studies show that if you quit smoking that in one years time your risk for heat disease will lower by more than half.

2. Lower High Blood Pressure - High blood pressure increases your risk for heart disease and stroke. You can work towards lowering your blood pressure by eating a heart healthy diet, lowering your sodium intake, getting regular physical activity, maintaining a healthy body weight and limiting your alcohol intake. You may also need to take medication to help regulate you blood pressure.

3. Lower High Cholesterol - Almost half of Original Women have a total Cholesterol that is too high. Excess cholesterol and fat in your blood build up in the walls of the vessels that supply blood to the heart and can lead to blockages. Eating a healthy diet, maintaining a healthy body weight, being active and taking medication if needed are ways to help lower high cholesterol.

4. Maintaining a Healthy Body Weight - Studies show that almost 80% of Original Women are overweight. Being over weight not only increases your risk for heart disease but also increases your risk for stroke, gall bladder disease and some cancers. Even a small weight loss can help to lower your risk.

5. Try to do at least 30 minutes of moderate intensity level of exercise daily. Physical activity is crucial for your health and for your heart health!

Take control of you health

1. Have an invested part of your health care.
2. Be sure to be very clear and concise with your doctor about your health concerns.
3. If you do not understand what the doctor is telling you ask questions
4. Know your numbers! It is important that you know your blood pressure, cholesterol, blood sugar levels, BMI (Body Mass Index) and waist measurements and what this means for your overall health.
5. Ask about what screening test are available for heat disease.
6. ask about a heart healthy diet that would work well for you.

You have to power to take control of heart disease and not to let heart disease take control of you!

Peace
Queen Kalila Earth

Goapele- Closer The original music video 2001/no effects

Creating the Life You Always Wanted to Live

Being who we are as women we often spent a lot of time nurturing, caring for and attending to the needs, wants and concerns of our family, friends and others leaving little time to care for ourselves. As we go through our day to day routine this doesn't seem like much of a big deal but there always comes that day when we think, "When was the last time I took a bubble bath, read a good book, or got a pedicure?" How often do women wake up on their 30th, 40th, or 50th birthday to realize that every dream and aspiration they had in their 20s was replaced with the dreams of their children, husbands, siblings or friends? how ofter do we hear, "Wow, you are so great. I don't know how you hold it all together and still have time to be there for all your friends."

There is nothing wrong wit loving and attending to our family and friends but we MUST make time to love our self and nurture our dreams. Care about and tend to our needs and wants. Do what it takes reach our fullest potential.

A few steps we can take toward creating the life we always wanted to live are:

1. Knowing its okay to say no - we often have a desire to please which leads us to say yes to things we really want to say no to. Not wanting to let anyone down hurt any one's feelings. Being able to say no to some of the invites and demands in you like will give you time to develop the dreams you have for you life.

2. Give yourself enough time to get "it" don't - If there are tasks that you must complete be sure to give yourself ample time to complete it. Giving yourself to many things to do in a short period of time will just result in you feeling like you have failed if they can't be completed on time

3. Listen to your inner voice - that voice that is telling you that you can do it. That you are not too old to go back to school. The voice that is telling you that you and important and vital part of the family and member of society and you have something important to offer. This is the voice that is speaking for you and you should take heed!

4. Take care of your health - as Original Women there are so many health issues that we face (diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease and stroke) and we have the power to cut the risk. Healthy diet, exercise, not smoking, limiting our stress levels and regular checkups will help us live longer, healthier lives!

5. Focus - Focus on who it is you know you were meant to be. Focus on your dreams. A fun activity to help with this is making a Focus Board. A Focus Board is a visualization tool used to aid in the achievement of our goals and help you reach your fullest potential.

Materials needed:

Crayons, markers, old magazines and newspapers, scissors, construction paper and glue

You use the newspapers and magazines to cut out pictures and words that represent goals you wold like to achieve in you life. Glue these to your construction paper and hang in a place where you can see it and focus on it on a daily basis. This is a great daily reminder of all of the wonderful things you would like to manifest in your life!

We hold the key that opens the door of opportunity that lay before us. Use those keys to open those doors and see what life has in store for you!

Peace

Queen Kalila Earth

A Dedication To Motherhood

Peace and Blessings Family,

As mothers day has come and gone the celebration of motherhood fades into the sunset. So I wanted to bring it back into the forefront. Mothering is a 24/7 365 day event with no breaks which deserves more than one day of recognition from others and even ourselves. We as original woman not only nursed, nurtured and cared for our own babies but those within our communities as well. This has been a major part of what has given us strength as a community and as a people. The time has come to stop reminiscing about back in the day when we had "big momma" (we all had one) who cared for us and what seemed like the whole neighborhood. The time has come for us to reconnect to the beauty in being a woman, a wife, and a mother. Our villages NEED US NOW!! They need us to be strong, regal, wise, loving, nurturing, supportive and divine!! So to all of the mothers, this is dedicated to you.

THE DIVINE
This womb cradled civilizations
Nurturing highly melanated minds creating nations
The stars looked at you with jealousy
Seeking to emulate your melody

La da di dat daa,  La da di dat daa

Sweet sounding rhythms
changing chemical compositions
formulating you so perfectly
From the mind into matter
Where all the bloodlines gather

La da di dat daa, La da di dat daa

The universe holds you close
As the light seeks your face
Being one in this time and this space
Two heartbeats closely synced
Became one even to think

La da di dat daa, La da di dat daa

Peace
Beautiful SciAsia Aset Earth

Peach Mango Smoothie

With those hot summer days quickly approaching us I thought I would share a recipe for a great fruit smoothie! Guaranteed to cool of those summer days!

Ingredients

• 1 peach, sliced
• 1 mango, sliced and diced
• 1/2 cup of vanilla almond milk
• 1/2 cup of orange juice

Directions

Place peach, mango, almond milk and orange juice into a blender. Cover and puree until smooth. Pour into a glass and enjoy!

Our Strength As A Unit Lies In Our Strength As Individuals

Peace and Blessings,

We often hear that a chain is no stronger than its weakest link. Well in the case of sisterhood, the bond is no stronger than the weaker sister. Now that may seem very harsh but it is also very real. Many of us have had what we considered to be strong bonds created with other sisters, destroyed by the littlest of things. We may have asked ourselves all types of questions in the event that this has happened to us. So i wanted to touch on this topic. It is always easier to walk through life with rose colored glasses, but when reality hits it can be more painful due to that particular view. As sisters, what we bring to the bond be it good or bad either strengthens the bond or tears it down. Much like a relationship with a man, we must either deal with the pain of our past and move forward or continue to allow our past to effect our present day situations. Many of us lie to ourselves about the extent of the damage that exists within us to do poor relationships with other girls/women from grade school through high school. Those interactions shape or in some cases dictate how we experience college and then work life in relation to other women. Due to the nature of our own ego's we simply want to push these issues on the back burner as if they can not and will not still burn us. When we choose to open up to a man, we accept that there is a vulnerability that goes along with that. We are willing to work through all types of MESS to deal with that man. Yet, with our sisters we place unrealistic standards on the nature of that union. We no longer tolerate differences and we begin to view our sisters as being dispensable. We have to shift this type of mindset. We are destroying our chances of creating strong communities of women who support, nurture, guide and love each other.


We may not:

• Always get along
• Always disagree peacefully
• Always be there when the other person wants us to be
• Always live up to each others expectations
• Always know what to say
• Always know when to say something
• Always do the right thing
• Always say the right thing

HOWEVER


We need to always:

• Respect each other
• Be understanding of one another
• Love each other
• Be patient with each other
• Leave room for growth as individuals
• Accept your differences
• Promote honest and open communication
• Accept what we view as flaws in our sisters

Sisterhood is not and will not always be easy, but I will say that it is definitely worth the investment. We simply need to remember to be strong and resolute in who we are and be willing to learn and grow. I love you all as I love myself and want for you what I want for myself. So lets get back to promoting communities of women who support one another and promote the continuation of the practice as well.

Peace
Beautiful SciAsia Aset Earth

Sisterisms

Peace,

What are sisterisms? Sisterisms are insights, words of wisdom from one sister to another sister.

We all desire to see a peaceful world, but what can I, as one person, do to bring it about? I know that for peace to occur, I must cultivate peace in my heart and mind each day. I help create peace on a global level when I am on good terms with my neighbor, my partner, my employer and members of my family. As I find inner peace at home, it expands across the world.

Peace is my natural state. It comes from within me, not outside me. When
I forgive myself and others, peace flows easily through my entire being.
When I release any ill will against a perceived enemy, I feel peace
instead of anger and hostility. As I consciously give peace a chance,
all around me is transformed.

Peace,
Queen Kalila Earth

What do you mean by Nice?

Nice

Definition- Obsolete, Foolish, Stupid, Senseless, Pleasing, Agreeable, Virtuous and Polite

Etymology- O.FR. nice silly or foolish L. nescius ignorant lit. not knowing

When we speak a language the goal is always to understand the language that are vocalizing. In the late 13th century nice held a negative connotation. The turn came about in the latter part of the 14th century when the word began to carry a positive connotation meaning things like polite and virtuous. Now you might be thinking how can it carry meanings that are seemingly on opposite sides of the spectrum. My response is since when did the sky become purple because Sarah said so. The origin of the word itself means foolish or ignorant. This cannot change just because people started carrying a different implication or expression of the word. The major point is if we are going to speak a language, I suggest we master it. This is to ensure that we are prepared in the event that our understanding of the language is tested in any manner that is set out to deceive or confuse us. It will open up a whole new world of understanding through reading and shear conversation.

Peace

Beautiful SciAsia Aset Earth

A Look at Goldenseal and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Goldenseal:

Botanical Name: Hydrastis Canadensis

Parts used: Rhizomes, root

Primary Uses: Common cold, sore throat, Chron’s disease, peptic ulcers, digestive disorders, sinusitis, excessive or painful menstruation, eczema, ear inflammations, vaginal infections, vaginal infections, gum disease and canker soars, parasitic infections, urinary tract infections, recurrent ear infections.

Dosage Options: Capsules 500mg up to four times daily. Tincture, 2-4 ml three times daily. Note: continuous use should not exceed three weeks, with a break of at least two weeks between uses.

Contraindications: Pregnancy and Lactation

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome:

1. Avoid refined foods such as sugar, caffeine, alcohol, saturated fats, dairy products, and gluten– containing grains
2. Eat more organic vegetables, legumes, whole grains (non-gluten), and Essential Fatty Acids (found in nuts, seeds, and cold-water fish)
3. Beta carotene– 50,000 IU daily to strengthen immune function
4. Vitamin C– 1,000 mg three to six times daily to increase energy and resistance
5. B complex– 50 to 100 mg daily with additional B6 - (100mg daily) and B5 (100 to 250mg daily) to reduce the effects of stress
6. Magnesium Aspartate- 400 to 1,000 mg daily to support energy production
7. L– Carnitine- 330mg one to three times daily to support energy production in the cells
8. Carrot juice, kelp and bee pollen provide energy if fatigue is due to low blood pressure

Herbs

• Siberian Ginseng– 200mg daily to support adrenal function and increase resistance to stress and disease
• Licorice– 250-500 mg daily for its antiviral properties and adrenal support (Licorice should not be taken by those with high blood pressure)
• Jasmine, Peppermint, and Rosemary– essential oils are calming and restorative and may be used in aromatherapy

Peace
Beautiful SciAsia Aset Earth

How to Make Time to Have Me Time

Its 5:00 and you’re on the highway making your way home from work when you remember you need to stop at the store for bread and something else but you can’t remember what else you needed to pick up. You get a call from your daughter and she says she needs to be picked up from soccer practice. You call your husband to see if he can get her so you can have time to run in the store and get to the daycare to pick up the baby before 6:00. He reminds you he has a business meeting after work. How could you have forgotten! Now what do you do because you really wanted to have a little Me Time tonight! A simple bubble bath and glass of wine after dinner but with everything going on you will be lucky to get in a three minute shower.

The biggest interference with those “stolen” moments of Me Time is simply not being organized. Now a day our families are so busy. If we had a convenient and easy way to track all of our schedules, shopping list, and to do list we can plan accordingly and make more time for Me Time.

If this sounds familiar I have found the PERFECT website for you. www.cozi.com. Cozi is a FREE online family organizer to manage the family calendar, track shopping and to do lists, share a family journal & more! Since I have started using Cozi my life has been so much easier!

Let me tell you how this works. When you sign up for Cozi it will ask you to enter your family’s information. You enter name, email address, and cell numbers for each family member. Cozi then starts a colored coded calendar system that will help you keep track of every thing going on in your family’s busy life. Each family member is assigned a colored dot that will be used to represent an appointment on the calendar and a color if it is an appointment that affects the whole family. You can then sync any online calendars with your Cozi calendar. For example, I clicked on the button that allows you to link to your child’s school calendar to your Cozi calendar. Next I typed in the city and state in which we live, Cozi provided a list of schools in the city, I clicked on the appropriate school, clicked on the child’s name associated with that school and like magic the school calendar appeared on my Cozi calendar (color coordinated with that child’s dot and all)! This will help to keep everything that everyone is doing organized… You can then have Cozi text reminders of different calendar appointments to the appropriate family members phone or it will send them and email. Your will also get an email with the calendar of the week each Sunday!

Cozi will also remember your shopping and to do list for you. The shopping list can be texted to your phone and with both you can call a 1-800 number and Cozi will read the list to you. You can also send a text and have Cozi send you a text of your part of the family calendar.

If you are an OutLook users Cozi will easily sync with your Out Look calendar with your Cozi Calendar.

There is also a fun and easy way to keep all family memories and share updates with family and friends. You can make daily entries in a family journal, add pictures and chose to share a particular journal entry, a monthly newsletter, or a link to your very own family website.

Cozi is so easy to use. Just a few clicks of your keyboard and a few minutes of your day you are on your way to being more organized and having more time for you!

Peace,

Queen Kalila Earth

How Do We Teach Our Children

The best thing that we as parents can do to really make sure that our children get the most out of this experience is to creatively help them to
learn the material. As a teacher you have to know the different styles of learning to reach a greater number of the children that would be in
your class, well that information will be a helpful tool to you as parents as well. I have enclosed different styles of learning to aide you in observing
your child to see the best way to help them retain the information that their school or you will be teaching them.

What are learning styles?

Learning styles are simply different approaches or ways of learning.

What are the types of learning styles?

1. Visual Learners:
Learn through seeing. These learners need to see the teacher’s body language and facial expression to fully understand the content of a
lesson, They tend to prefer sitting at the front of the classroom to avoid visual obstructions.They may think in pictures and learn from visual

displays including:diagrams, illustrated text, books, overhead transparencies, videos, flipcharts and hand-outs. During a lecture
or classroom discussion, visual learners often prefer to take detailed notes to absorb the information.

2. Auditory Learners: Learn through listening. They learn best through verbal lectures, discussions, talking things through and listening
to what others have to say. Auditory learners interpret the underlying meanings of speech through listening to tone of voice, pitch, speed,
and other nuances. Written information may have little meaning until it is heard. These learners often benefit from reading text aloud and
using a tape recorder.

3. Tactile/Kinesthetic Learner: Learn through moving, doing, and touching. They learn best through hands-on approach, actively exploring
the physical world around them. They may find it hard to sit still for long periods and may become distracted by their need for activity
and exploration.

What is Multiple Intelligence?

They are seven different ways to demonstrate intellectual ability.

What are the types of multiple intelligence?

1. Visual/Spatial Intelligence: Ability to perceive the visual. Theses learners tend to think in pictures and need to create
vivid mental images to retain information. They enjoy looking at maps, charts, pictures, videos, and movies.

2. Verbal/Linguistic Intelligence: Ability to use words and language. These learners have highly developed auditory skills and
are generally elegant speakers. They think in words rather than pictures.

3. Logical/Mathematical Intelligence: Ability to use reason, logic, and numbers. These learners think conceptually in logical and numerical
patterns making connections between pieces of information. Always curious about the world around them while asking lots of questions.

4. Bodily/Kinesthetic Intelligence: Ability to control body movements and handle objects skillfully. These learners express themselves
through movement. They have a good sense of balance and eye-hand coordination. Through interacting with the space around them,
they are able to remember and process information.

5. Musical/Rhythmic Intelligence: Ability to produce and appreciate music. These musically inclined learners think in sounds, rhythms, and patterns.They immediately respond to music either appreciating or criticizing what they hear. Many of these learners are extremely sensitive
to environmental sounds.

6. Interpersonal Intelligence:Ability to relate and understand others. These learners try to see things from other people’s point of view in order to understand how they feel and think. They often have and uncanny ability to sense feelings, intentions, and motivations. They are great organizers,
although they sometimes resort to manipulation. Generally they try to maintain peace in group settings and encourage co-operation. They
use both verbal and non verbal language to open communication channels with others.

7. Intrapersonal Intelligence: Ability to self-reflect and be aware of one’s inner state of being. These learners try to understand their inner feelings,dreams, relationships with others, and strengths and weaknesses.

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Beautiful SciAsia Aset Earth

Green Machine

Peace Family,

We wanted to share with you some healthy recipes that you can conversely share with your family. It is so important that we break the cycles of unhealthy eating and get back into a diet that promotes life. The Green Machine is an easy recipe that can be eaten alone or with another dish. I will that you enjoy it in love and good health!!

Green Machine

Ingredients: Make sure everything is fresh!!

Asparagus Tips
Broccoli (1 1/2 cup)
Zucchini (1 large)
Green Beans (2 handfuls)
Yellow Squash (1 large) (Not green but very tasty)
Kale (optional)
Garlic (3 Cloves)
Onions (1 medium)
Sea Salt (1 tsp- season to taste)
Rosemary (1 tsp- season to taste)
Thyme (1 tsp- season to taste)
Sage (1 tsp- season to taste)
Olive Oil (2 tsp)
Vegan Margarine (5 tbsp)

Instructions:Listen to some music and dance while you enjoy making a healthy dish for your family

1. Place olive oil in a pan and heat up
2. Cut up your garlic and onions
3. Place the garlic and onions (season lighty with above spices) until they become translucent
4. Place 3 tbsp of margarine in the pan
5. Place all vegetables in the pan
6. Add Sea Salt, Rosemary, Thyme, Sage
7. Rotate food within the pan to ensure it is well coated
8. Add the remaining 2 tbsp of margarine to the pan
9. Cover and cook until desired tenderness (I usually cook for 30min)

Variation:For the KALE option

Ingredients:

Asparagus Tips
Broccoli (1 1/2 cup)
Zucchini (1 large)
Green Beans (2 handfuls)
Yellow Squash (1 large) (Not green but very tasty)
Kale (1 Bunch)
Garlic (3 Cloves)
Onions (1 medium)
Sea Salt (1 tsp- season to taste)
Rosemary (1 tsp- season to taste)
Thyme (1 tsp- season to taste)
Sage (1 tsp- season to taste)
Olive Oil (2 tsp)
Vegan Herb Bouillon Cubes (1 cube)
Water (1/2 cup)

Instructions:

1. Place olive oil in a pan and heat up
2. Cut up your garlic and onions
3. Place the garlic and onions (season lighty with above spices) until they become translucent
4. Place water and bouillon cube in the pan and wisk until cube is dissolved
5. Place all vegetables in the pan
6. Add Sea Salt, Rosemary, Thyme, Sage
7. Rotate food within the pan to ensure it is well coated
8. Add the remaining 2 tbsp of margarine to the pan
9. Cover and cook until desired tenderness (I usually cook for 45min)

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Beautiful SciAsia Aset Earth

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Peace and Blessings
I am a happily married mother of 4 beautiful children. I currently work as an Executive Administrative Assistant/Special Events Planning. I am working to start my own line of natural bath, beauty and home care
products and will be starting my journey to become a doula in June of this year.I enjoy spending time learning, laughing, teaching (with/to/from) other sisters. The bond of sisterhood is very important to me as it helps women to grow, as we learn so much from one another. Nurturing those sister relationships is not always easy but always necessary. I am so excited to be here to be able to share what I have learned about being a sister, a mother, a wife and a friend with you!
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Queen Kalila Earth

Peace & Blessings

Peace Family,
My name is Beautiful SciAsia Aset Earth. I am mommy to a wonderful son and twin girls. Over the last couple of years I have been fortunate enough to be able to be at home with my children. I have learned so much from them and about them. It has truly been an eye opening experience. During that time I also started my own business making handcrafted accessories. I love having the ability to have a vision and create from that vision something that others have appreciated. I guess you could say that these last few years have brought many things into life as well as taken them away. One thing that has remained has been my sisters. I have grown to appreciate the bond that having a sincere, loving, trustworthy, caring, real, etc. woman in my life can bring. I realized that we all need our sisters even when they don't realize that that is who they are to us. We are a communal people and in our history, our sisters taught us, they cared for us, they birthed our children into the world, held our hands in difficult times, and cared for our children as their own. I am looking forward to learning, sharing and growing with all of you
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Beautiful SciAsia Aset Earth

Forming Sisterly Bonds

Definition of Sisterhood - the solidarity of women based on shared, experiences, conditions, and/or concerns.

I have been blessed to have two physical sisters. We are close most times, sometimes not so close and sometimes cant stand one another LOL but we are always sister… Bonded by the love of our parents forever.

Over the years I have met some wonderful women and some of those women have become very close to me. I have called these women my sister friends. We have bonded for so many reasons (similar up bringing, similar interest, similar careers, our children and/or our experiences to name a few). These relationships are tried and true. They have withstood the test of time. We are connected and bonded. I now simply call them my sisters.

When forming bonds of sisterhood there are a few important things to keep in mind:

1. Know what is important to you in a sister. What characteristics are most important to you in a friend?

2. In order to gain a sister you must be a sister.

3. Show respect for one another’s journey – understand that she may not be in the same place as you in her life but her journey and growth & development is just as important as yours

4. Be there for her like she is there for you – nothing is worse than a one sided friendship. Those never last long because there is no balance.

5. Be honest with yourself about yourself – are you really in a position where you can extend yourself in a way that it will take to nourish a sisterhood bond

These are a few of the steps that I follow when nurturing a sisterly relationship. Taking the time to that is needs to plant those seeds and nurture those seeds of sisterhood will develop a bond with strong roots and will grow to be fruitful for all.

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Queen Kailia Earth